Most life coaches, spiritual guides and religious teachers advocate forgiveness as one of the important characteristics one should adopt for self-improvement.
Why?
Consider a situation where you do not forgive someone: someone has just cheated you, someone whom you had always trusted, someone whom you thought always had your welfare at heart. Ouch!
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In the extreme case, you would decide to get even with the person.
This could entail the following actions and consequences:
| 1. | You might spend time planning on how to get even, maybe cumulatively an hour a day. You would obsess on the subject. This would result in a certain amount of stress to your nervous system. |
| 2. | You might stop speaking to the person who cheated you. If you met him face to face, you would turn the other way or look through him. The disadvantage here is that the other person might start considering you an enemy. That apart, you might also need his help someday, and you just ensured that help will not be forthcoming. |
| 3. | You might do something to harm that person. It doesn?t take an Einstein to figure out the downside of that: he might harm you back. |
| 4. | Your mind is something like a house. It has spaces. If you do not forgive,? at least one of those spaces will be occupied by your obsession.? You could very well use this space for a positive, productive pursuit instead? like planning how to enhance your career, serve your family or help others. |
| 5. | Not forgiving the "wrongdoer" might upset your relationships with friends of the wrongdoer. Unless you live alone in a sequestered cave, you need other people?s assistance in your daily life. Burning bridges therefore makes life less easy for you. |
On the other hand, if you forgave the person:
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I adopted forgiveness as a guiding principle some time back and am very pleased with the effect it has had on me and those around me.
Test it out for yourself and see how it makes your life better!
To your growing peace and happiness,
Source: http://calmandcool.com/925/forgiveness.htm
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